Are children today missing out on childhood?
Some experts say the information age is teaching kids about the world too
soon.
Family specialist Shelley Osterloh has the final segment of her series
on Kids in the Know.
Kids need only watch t.v. or read a newspaper to hear about some of the
scary people and things that happen.
Now experts say, it's not so bad that kids know something of the dangers
of the world. But they may lack perpspective, context or experience, to judge
just how vulnerable "they" might be.
And that affects how they view their own future.
There is no question, what kids know today, colors how they see the future.
"I think a lot of things will be worse. Our children might me listening to
horrible stuff and seeing more violence and stuff on t.v."
"You're going to get twice as much pollution."
"Like are we going to have to wear gas masks or something because its so
polluted?"
"People won't have such a good living because they say lots of jobs will be
replaced by machines."
"I think another World War would be life threatening to all of us, 'cause we
have weapons that can blow up a whole country."
"I think the most critical part that we've got to do is prevent them from
becoming hopeless and giving up," says pschycolgist Doug Goldsmith. He says
children who live in fear... lose hope.... especially those who feel threatened
by violence.
"If I don't think I'm going to live very long, why should I work hard in
school? Why should I devote myself to a future if I truely don't believe there
will be a future?" Goldsmith says.
Experts say in this complicated world where kids have access to so much
information, adults need to help kids develop coping strategies.
If something frightens them, help them think of several ways to handle
it.
Children who feel empowered, have a more confident view of themselves and
their world.
"It's just a matter of how you think. Be positive and you'll probably do really
well."
"When I'm an adult, I think there will be better inventions, and things will be
better quality."
"There's going to be technology and better stuff to help us."
"I think they won't have any more pollution. They'll figure out how to do it
without polluting."
"When I look into the future, I like to see non violence. Not as many drugs
sold on the streets."
"If we didn't fight a lot, the world would be a bettr place for people to live
in.. and children wouldn't die. Everything would be perfect."
"I personally think we should start now, by making the world better in the
future."
The message from experts is, help kids find ways to handle problems and
worries.
If a child is worried about someone breaking in, show them how to lock the
doors, check the windows, set up a plan on what they should do if they are
alone and frightened.
If they're worried about gangs or bullies giving them a bad time, talk
to them about avoiding them, running away, or apologizing, asking for help, not
walking alone.
Whatever the problem, fear, or worry, help them come up with ways to handle it,
so kids feel empowered instead of victimized by life.